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Doc Impossible

If you're questioning, recently hatched, and/or afraid you'll lose your identity in transition:

You'll GAIN your identity. You'll LOSE the 17 trauma responses in a trenchcoat that you *think* is your identity.

This brilliant statement courtesy of a dear friend.

@Impossible_PhD I resonate with this so well. My egg cracked just over 2 years ago, and I feel like I've discovered more about who I really am since then than I had the rest of my life.

@Impossible_PhD Yep. And sometimes you might discover that you actually re-gained it.

@Impossible_PhD Ah ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha... oh gods.

Ah.

Well, you're not wrong but WIP.

@Impossible_PhD ... the new thing is better, to be clear. I'm on the early stages of finding it but it's _so much better_.

But wow; and I know you know.

@miriamrobern Not me today. I'm just the messenger.

@Impossible_PhD and it’s important to know that sometimes this takes TIME! i hatched almost 5 years ago, but i’m still struggling to fully accept who i am throughout myself, and despite being fully out for 3 years, i’m still working on gaining my identity. But know that it has been COMPLETELY worth it to me, and it will be for you. Here’s to keep on going!!

@Impossible_PhD I’m feeling happier than I’ve ever felt before, but I’m also feeling ragged, like “what if I’m not soaring, just mid-plummet?”

@grissallia Then you just... miss the ground.

And before you think that's a throwaway Douglas Adams joke, remember that that's exactly how orbital mechanics work. You're constantly falling, and just miss, forever.

@Impossible_PhD @grissallia

isn't it just the curve of spacetime around a massive object that means that a straight line at the velocity happens to be a circle?

@MrsMouse @grissallia I mean, in astrophysics, that's just two ways of describing the same thing, though. Only question is whether you want to focus on the theoretical physics side or the engineering side.

@MrsMouse @grissallia Hard agree. Science is so cool, and how the same phenomenon changes meaning depending on how you want to work with it is soooo cool!

@Impossible_PhD but what if they’re my only friends?!?! trench coats aren’t cheap!

@Impossible_PhD I have watched this happen with my friends. They are so much more themselves now. Happier, fuller, more energy, positive relationships...

I love to see it. It fills my heart to watch them finally thrive.

@Impossible_PhD That's not to say it's all easy or that they don't need their therapists or any of that. But once they untangled their gender, most things seemed to get easier for them.

@Alexbbrown How what part, specifically? Transition, resolving trauma, finding yourself? There's more than one referent there. ☺️