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Lulu · לולו

@terraboops 🎯💯👌

I think you did it perfectly.

I mean, you have to expect pushback and denial. There's a reason why someone stays an egg. Going too strong is obviously a bad idea.

But the fact that building an incubation chamber is a complex and delicate process that takes time and patience doesn't mean that you should give up before even trying.

@lulu @terraboops while I wholly support this please keep in mind that some are not trans but gender fluid or ambiguous and continuously nudging them towards being trans can harm more than assist.

@Polychrome @terraboops I don't "nudge" and I never assert that someone is trans if they don't say so themselves.

I just show them, respectfully, on eye level, what I observe in them that seems similar to my trans experience. If they interpret these things differently, I respect it and accept it.

@Polychrome The best way to make sure that genderfluid, non-binary, and ambigender people don't mistake themselves for binary trans people is to let them know that other genderfluid, non-binary, and ambigender people exist. Makes it easier to recognise themselves, and avoids the implicit misleading position that there's only binary options: trans or no trans.

@terraboops @lulu