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@shanselman@hachyderm.ioReminding yourself who you are after 18 years of raising kids as they start to become more independent and head out into the world is an overwhelming and introspective process.
(quiet time) @shanselman it is. But I told myself that this is my retrospective on a very long-running project: equipping my 2 useless brats to be decent, respectful and responsible humans able to go out there and make their own way. Tomorrow we'll assemble at my house for Sunday lunch together. I feel good about it.
@shanselman Childless person asks: “reminding” or also some “learning the new self (and couple) who you are and could be now”?
Latter feels the case for myself
@jeffreypriebe indeed, it’s a little of both
Darcy @shanselman It can also be a disorienting one, as you find that your suppressed childless self has evolved in unexpected ways during those 18 years. Even more so if your partner's has too. Can take a while to find your feet again.
@shanselman Wait until the grandkids arrive…
@shanselman I can't tell if I'm looking forward to that moment or dreading it.
@shanselman oh god I’m thinking about this all the time these days. Do I even know how to just experience a day anymore, without kids to help/coach/tend?
@shanselman Went through that with all our kids, now adults in their 20’s. If an 18-year-old goes to college it’s not so bad, they’re still in an organized environment that you can understand. Couldn’t imagine it otherwise 
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This process may take even longer than for our own parents too! Because at least for our family living in LA, our twenty-somethings can't afford to move out. LOL
I moved out just before I turned 21, but I honestly don't even have an estimate for when either of our daughters can afford it.
