#StainedGlassWoman is entering hibernation.
There's a lot of reasons for this, but the one at the deepest root of it that I get my ideas for articles from being in community, and right now, the community is awash in rage and pain.
And I just can't take it.
Have a read for the details, if you want to know the full story.
The holidays are often a really tough time for queer, and especially #trans, folks. We fight for family and somehow it always seems to turn into us getting hurt more and more.
This holiday on #StainedGlassWoman, we're holding the Black Sheep close, and talking about the reasons families are dysfunctional.
And no, it's not your fault. It was never your fault.
Well, Shit.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, it's time to look at some practical tips and realities about what's coming after the most recent American election, how we can get ready, and what real and substantive protections we have in place right now that'll help us fight the fight we need to fight.
Shoulder to the boulder, folks. Time to get to work.
Tying the Knot is one of the most beautiful rites of passage there is, and sharing the joy of these transitional moments is a really key way our societies pull together. But how does transition figure into these often-gendered spaces?
This week, #StainedGlassWoman explores the intersections of gender and ritual, and how we can renew ties to the people we love, whether that's in marriage or elsewise.
It always surprises me a little when trans folks speak out in opposition to the Egg Prime Directive, because I've seen just how devastating the effects can be from ignoring it firsthand. This week on #StainedGlassWoman, Let's Fly, and really dig in to what the Prime Directive is about, and why it's such an essential tool for trans liberation.
One of the hardest things to know, when you're trans, is what you dare to do--transition, hormones, even surgery. These things can be terrifying, and the fear of them casts a long shadow.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we look deeply at that Leap of Faith, all the little decisions that go in to making it, to find out how you can know for sure if transition, HRT, or surgery is right for you.
And you might be surprised by the answer.
Science, research, and building understanding all, ultimately, come down to asking the right question in the right way. That's the scientific method, right?
But happens when the language you use to even *ask* the question is all wrong?
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're diving into conceptual metaphors, scientific research, and answering the question why there's so little research done to meet the needs of nonbinary folks!
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/a-rose-by-any-other-name
It's tricky to be trans right now, particularly in the US and UK, because we've been made into a bit of a political... thing, lately. A lot of us want to fight back, but so often, we find that we're getting nowhere arguing with cis folks.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're Getting the Message Out with a primer on effective entry-level trans activism. If you've been trying to figure out how to get involved, this one's for you!
#FtM #nonbinary #MtF #trans #activism
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/getting-the-word-out
Ever wish you had something small enough to explain a really basic part of being trans to like... your coworkers, or your clueless parents? The kind of people who just sorta bounce off the long intro articles you send them?
This week on #StainedGlassWoman are Doc Impossible's Trans-Torials, Creative Commons-licensed, standalone, portable, *printable* intros to transness for those folks!
If there's one thing that's inevitable when you're trans and out online, it's running into transphobic hate speech. How we fight it and protect ourselves when we do, however, makes a big difference.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're looking at the psychology of radicalizing public rhetoric, how normal folks turn into transphobes, and how to stamp out their hatred effectively, and while minimizing their ability to hurt you.
It's Pride month, and now that we're 55 years after Stonewall, it can be awfully easy to forget why it's all such a big deal--and what Pride exists to do.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're diving into the lifesaving importance of Pride and the Prejudice that makes it so necessary. Grab a rainbow flag, show yourself a little love, and join us as we talk about internalized self-stigma and shame.
#Trans #TransJoy #MtF #Enby #FtM #Psychology
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/pride-and-prejudice
How many times have you looked at this trans person or that trans person and found yourself just in awe of them, feeling hopeless to ever measure up to their transness? I know I have.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, Red Seems Sus, which means we're investigating imposters... or rather, why trans folks often feel like we're not trans enough, or not really trans by comparison to others. I promise: you won't be thrown out an airlock! 
What happens after the end of the second year of hormonal transition, once all the doctors say you've seen everything you're going to see. Why is it that basically everyone sees... well, a heck of a lot more?
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're talking about Transition Timelines, and the science--and lack thereof--of later transition!
#Nonbinary #FtM #MtF #Trans #Transgender
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/transition-timelines
Coming out is hard, and coming out as trans is even harder. As trans folks, we have to do it in a way pretty much nobody else ever does.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're looking at the rhetoric of How To Come Out Anywhere, so you can feel a little more confident when you invite the people you love into a deeper relationship with you.
#Trans #transgender #MtF #FtM #Nonbinary #Enby
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/how-to-come-out-anywhere
I have never before in my life read or felt seen as deeply by a feminism like that from A Short History of Trans Misogyny, and this week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're diving deep into mujerísima to understand exactly why Jules Gill-Peterson's work truly is A Love Letter To The Dolls unlike anything I've ever encountered before.
#trans #MtF #nonbinary #TransJoy #Feminism
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/a-love-letter-to-the-dolls
One of the scariest parts of coming out is coming out at work. Unlike your family--blood or chosen--work is just a bunch of people who get thrown together, mishmash, and have to make things work out.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, it's a guide to give to your coworkers when they get that wide-eyed look and think "Oh, s#!t, my coworker just told me they're trans." At least, it should keep people from asking what's in your goddamned pants.
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-my-coworker-just-told-me-theyre
Of all the comings-out we have to do as trans folks, telling our parents is one of the very hardest. What it even *means* to be trans has changed so much that it can be incredibly hard to even get them to understand what your gender is.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we've got "Oh, s#!t, my child just told me they're trans," a guide meant to be handed off to parents of trans teens and adult children, to help them get there.
#MtF #FtM #Nonbinary #comingout
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-my-child-just-told-me-theyre
For so many of us, coming out isn't just about ourselves--it's about the people we love most, and especially our partners.
But we do come out to them, and then the person we love the most is faced with the reality that, "Oh, s#!t, my partner just told me they're trans." What the fuck do I do?!
They deserve support in those tender first moments, and this week, I'm going to try and give them a little with a jumbo edition of #StainedGlassWoman!
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-my-partner-just-told-me-theyre
Tomorrow's #StainedGlassWoman is a J-U-M-B-O edition, clocking in at over six *thousand* words, over triple the length of a regular SGW!
Get ready for, I really hope, something special!
While some of us knew from a very, very young age that we were trans, a whole lot of us... well, we didn't. We thought that the way things were for us was normal.
And then, one day, maybe all of a sudden, maybe after a long time exploring ourselves, we said the magic words: "Oh, s#!t, I think I'm not cis."
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we've got a guide for what to do after the bottom drops out of your world, and you got your gender wrong.
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-i-think-im-not-cis
