While some of us knew from a very, very young age that we were trans, a whole lot of us... well, we didn't. We thought that the way things were for us was normal.
And then, one day, maybe all of a sudden, maybe after a long time exploring ourselves, we said the magic words: "Oh, s#!t, I think I'm not cis."
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we've got a guide for what to do after the bottom drops out of your world, and you got your gender wrong.
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-i-think-im-not-cis
This article is the first in a little miniseries I'm doing, tentatively and affectionately called the "Oh shit" articles. They're meant to be starter education/guide tools for the first little bit after transness suddenly enters a person's life.
@Impossible_PhD I won't lie, I think about breast cancer a lot. It runs a lot in my moms family and she herself got it multiple times. I know she did do the gene test, but still, it worries me.
@Impossible_PhD this is super great! (I wish this existed a few years ago when I was saying "oh shit").
It also makes me wish there was a version of this kind of piece I could send to family/friends after coming out to them to explain things better.
@zoe HMMMMM THAT WOULD BE GREAT TOPIC MATTER FOR SUBSEQUENT ARTICLES IN A MINISERIES IT SURE WOULD HMMMMMM
Beautiful. I think the best way to put it... remember the pilot episode of DS9? There are places we *live*, where our experiences were so traumatic that we can't help but burn part of our soul in that place and time.
I live in a dorm bed in late February 1997, huddled in my blankets, not even daring to face the day. This essay reminded me of that in a comforting way, like going back and hugging that poor girl who saw nothing but darkness in that moment.
Thank you.
@Impossible_PhD Doc Impossible doing what Doc Impossible does best. Good read, thanks for this!
@Impossible_PhD on my case was a "Toto, I think that we aren't any more in Kansas"
@Impossible_PhD my thing is I have always identified as bisexual, a persons sex was less important, to me, than the type of person they were. It has just been recently that it occurred to me that identity is also about how one wants society to see them in addition to how one sees themselves; and I have always identified with women, though never considered that I identify as a woman.
@DanadasGrau I wish you luck and clarity in your exploration!
@Impossible_PhD Well written, detailed, understandable even for me, helps a lot. Thank you very much.