At which point did we, as a species, decide that it makes sense to ask a potential date whether they intend to have a "short-term" / "long-term" / "lifelong" relationship before even meeting them for the first time?
You see, darling, I don't even know if I like you. Listen, gorge, this is not how any of this works. I don't set the time limit *before* getting to know someone and seeing how well we get along. Look, honey, you sound like you're filling in a form. Are you a bot?
And since I'm in the mood for dying on hills: a one-night stand, even if you abbreviate it to ONS for whatever reason, is not a premeditated choice. I feel like I'm losing touch with humanity...
I'll try to explain: if we meet for sex and we like each other, we'll probably meet again. Hey, we might even have some pillow talk and get to know each other. If, on the other hand, one or more of us didn't like the experience, it would be silly for us to force ourselves to meet again.
I don't understand why these things are not obvious.
Next time I get asked: "are you looking for a long-term relationship?" or hear someone say "I don't like ONS" - I should be like, our experience and understanding of human life and behavior differ so significantly that I think we should avoid the inconvenience of meeting without having any shared reality whatsoever.
@Polychrome Thank you!