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I went to school with the Asian scions of people like these.
Literally the families mentioned in the crazy Rich Asians book / movie.
For so many of them, the anxiety of ‘not having succeeded on their own’ is extreme. Amuses me that many of them are posting about going to ‘financial therapy’ (for having too much of, and therefore a weird relationship with, money)
https://reasonstobecheerful.world/giving-away-money-is-good-for-you/
I’m very thankful I’m autistic coz I would have never survived in that weird environment otherwise. I never desired their money or their things or status. Mostly I was just very perplexed by it. When I got older I think I found it absurd that teenagers were flying on private jets.
My favorite anecdote is that my boyfriend at 15 years old, his mum asked me ‘what Tan are you? Rubber Tan? Real estate Tan?’ And she was disappointed to find out my parents had.. real jobs
I think when I was more cis and straight passing, I ‘passed’ as one of them but I think if I had taken it too seriously I would never have been accepted anyway. I was the fun pleb girl they date, marriage is a whole other thing. I know so many people who married into that world and Michelle Yeoh’s performance in crazy Rich Asians, while great, doesn’t quite capture the full extent and rejection of being a straggler in old money Asian society.
I always tell Asian Americans that crazy rich Asians isn’t about the dentist uncle you have who has a nice car.
It’s ‘my classmate stayed at the Waldorf-Astoria for her entire 4 years at Columbia’ rich
Farah 
@skinnylatte Why go to Columbia then?
@farah so they have an Ivy League degree and can go home and inherit the biz as someone with a credential!
Some of them definitely cosplay at being poor when they’re abroad, especially in New York (like with spare rooms they rent to pretend they’re normal people haha)
@skinnylatte 
rich people are weird
@skinnylatte “my classmate stayed at the…”
*blink*blink* Jesus fuck.
@mivox I know another person who stayed at a similar hotel in another global city for years while their house was being remodeled. In the suite. Lol. Maybe they can get lots of credit card points /s
@mivox maybe at that point it’s ’time to buy the hotel’ hahaha
@skinnylatte But then they’d probably have to move out of the suite, because they’d be losing money! 
Is this a common read of that film? I thought it was pretty obvious it was about the kind of family they made Texas soap operas about, had they been American.
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@julie Chinese American folks really leaned hard into the ‘finally!! Representation!!’ Thing and really wanted it to be about them. Those people are real and they are ethnically Chinese but they have nothing in common with anyone lol
Ah, that makes sense.
But oof. What an unfortunate thing to feel represented by.
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@skinnylatte people think that lifestyle scales linearly with wealth, but there are step-changes, mostly in mentality.
My youngest, who when he was little was obsessed with octopuses, was invited to a birthday party at an aquarium (which was awesome) and when we got there we realized it was a private event, they’d rented out the whole place. That’s not even that expensive in the context even “mere” deca-millionaires, but the idea that that is an option isn’t something most people even consider for a toddler’s birthday party.