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@liztai@hachyderm.ioI never really felt comfortable with my identity as a Chinese person because I can't read Chinese, don't speak the languages fluently or even have the same culture as most Chinese people. It took me a while to have a sense of humor about it - these days I embrace being called a tropical fruit 
#Malaysia #Chinese #Culture #Substack
https://open.substack.com/pub/elizabethtai/p/hello-from-a-banana
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Years ago I (Irish-American) was on vacation with my wife (Chinese-American) in Southern California, and we walked holding hands past a gaggle of Asian-American teenagers. Someone said, “I’m a banana! My spoon is too big!” and they all laughed. I didn’t get what it meant until later. My wife’s parents are from China, she’s fully bilingual in Mandarin and English, and even my Mandarin is probably more than those kids know. But she was with me, so: banana. It still annoys me.
@mcmullin wow how rude of them. They are jerks!!
Banana means differently in Malaysia, however, tho it makes me wonder what they call mixed race couples now 
Yey! I thought I was the only one brave enough to admit it. 
When you say you're part Chinese and they discover you can't speak any Chinese, you get a "fake Chinese" reaction. Like, "I only stated facts".
On my mother side, were Chinese, "Sese", which originated directly from "Xié" (xié4), from Guangdong (not the Spanish/African Sesé). My mom wanted me to study in a Chinese school in Elementary but I want to be in another school. (Though when I learned of my roots later in High School, I wish I had studied in a Chinese school. I also would have been classmates with Sandara Park for the Chinese subject, even though I'm her senior by 2 years.)
I have cousins who can speak multiple Chinese languages, and my younger brother as well.
@liztai If I may share and add. When one of my cousins studied in China and tried to find the family of our ancestor there, he noticed there was a discrimination. I can't remember what word they used to call him, but it's close to "traitor".
They were friendly at first, but once they learned he's a descendant of a Chinese who migrated, poof, discrimination. They "hate" overseas Chinese.
It's possible he wasn't able to find any information because the mainlanders intentionally did not share any information.
This was in the late 90s and early 2000s. Hopefully it changed already, we're descendants, we were born overseas Chinese. 
@youronlyone Like we had any choice in the migration 
My ancestors came to Malaya when the Manchurians took over and the Ming dynasty fell. Ask them la why they left, not me
@liztai Exactly! Hahaha. It was their choice, not the descendants!
They should at least be happy we're tracing back our roots. ^_^