I think you did it perfectly.
I mean, you have to expect pushback and denial. There's a reason why someone stays an egg. Going too strong is obviously a bad idea.
But the fact that building an incubation chamber is a complex and delicate process that takes time and patience doesn't mean that you should give up before even trying.
@Polychrome @terraboops I don't "nudge" and I never assert that someone is trans if they don't say so themselves.
I just show them, respectfully, on eye level, what I observe in them that seems similar to my trans experience. If they interpret these things differently, I respect it and accept it.